You are served with divorce papers in the San Francisco Bay Area. You have custody of the kids but are afraid of losing them, don’t have money for a lawyer and can’t pay your bills while your spouse is earning $120,000 a year. What can you do to survive the divorce process personally and financially? Apply for “temporary” orders. Here are the top choices for orders and how they can work for you.
It is often the exception, not the rule, that the parties parted amicably, are both self-supporting, able to finance the litigation, and agree on custody/visitation and child support. All too many separations are fraught with resentment – the parties need a court order to ensure neither will take unfair advantage of the other by cutting off support, secreting property, or absconding with the children. In extreme situations, immediate protective relief may be essential to ensure the physical safety of a party and/or the children.
A person can seek a variety of interim, “temporary” orders (also referred to as “pendente lite” relief) in a divorce. The purpose of a lot of these orders is to maintain the “status quo” until the divorce can be settled. Some orders, labeled “protective orders,” are specifically designed to ensure the safety of a party and children in domestic violence situations.
Temporary orders are appropriate when any of the following exist:
- There is actual or threatened physical or sexual abuse of a spouse, their children and/or other family and household members
There is a dispute over child custody and/or visitation
- The spouse needs spousal support and the other party refuses to help voluntarily
- The children need financial assistance for their basic (child support) and/or extraordinary expenses (e.g., for medical/dental care, special education) and the other party refuses to help
- The spouse cannot afford to pay attorney’s fees and costs
- The family finances and community property estate are under the other party’s control and are at risk of being dissipated or at least separated from the client’s access to pay debts and expenses
- The spouse otherwise needs help paying community debts and living expenses while the divorce is happening
There are a dizzying array of temporary orders available. Here are the top picks:
- Orders restraining assaultive conduct and harassment
- Dwelling exclusion and other “stay-away” orders
- Companion animal protection orders
- Firearm restraining orders
- Injunctive relief (specifying that a party do or don’t do something) as authorized in civil actions generally
- Temporary custody/visitation orders
- Property restraint orders, including orders regarding temporary use, possession and control of property and the payment of liens/encumbrances on that property.
- Nondisclosure orders, in UIFSA support enforcement proceedings concerning the address or other identifying information of a party, child, parent, guardian or other child caretaker.
- Child and/or spousal/partner support orders.
- Attorney’s fees and costs orders.
Every type of temporary order involves a certain type of process and set of laws. The process of securing temporary orders can be overwhelming but essential to one’s literal or financial survival. A person engaged in a divorce is wise to seek the help of a family law attorney to maneuver this tricky area of family law.